“Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity…”  Yehuda Berg

Without words, thought could never be a reality. Through words, we express our inner world, our thoughts, beliefs, and emotions. The words create our reality. They have immense energy and power to heal, to hurt, to destroy, to build and empower. The words have creative or destructive power over our lives, in spite of whether we are aware of that or not. This spiritual law is as powerful, as any physical law.

The spoken Word is a Creator. As a well-known Bible verse says: “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.” (John 1:1, the Bible)

We have been thought throughout history that God created the world through His Word. He has deposited the same creative power in us through our mouth. We can create good and build up with the words we use or we can create bad and destroy. Once we become aware of the power of this spiritual law and comply with it in the same way we comply with any other physical law, we would be able to crack the code of living a more positive and fulfilling life.

A Japanese doctor, Masaru Emoto made an experiment using water from different sources that he poured into different containers. He labelled each container with either positive or negative words and exposed them to various type of music or spoken words for a specific time. After that, he began to freeze the water for three hours at a temperature of minus twenty degrees Celsius and photographed it under a microscope. The water molecules have formed different shapes. Those exposed to positive words have formed beautiful shapes of flowers or stars, while those exposed to negative words looked shapeless and distorted. Here is what Dr Emoto shares about his experiment in his own words: “This is one of the most difficult areas to clarify. However, from continuing these experiments we have come to the conclusion that the water is reacting to the actual words. For example, for our trip to Europe, we tried using the words “thank you” and “you fool” in German. The people on our team who took the actual photographs of the water crystals did not understand the German for “you fool”, and yet we were able to obtain exactly the same kind of results in the different crystal formations based on the words used.”

The scientists have discovered that our body consists of 70% water. If so, what does that experiment suggest about us?  If the words that we speak produce such an effect on water crystals, what kind of effect they would have if spoken over people or life events in our lives?

The words we choose to use are correlated to our core beliefs, which have been formed in our childhood from people who cared for us – parents, teachers, carers and from peers during adolescence. If we observe a baby we’ll notice that it reflects back the nonverbal signals it receives. It smiles back when someone smiles, it may cry when someone frowns or raises his voice. The child’s mind is like a blank sheet of paper. If a child grows up in a negative environment and is being exposed to criticism, ridicule, neglect or negative remarks, those negative words would build the child’s negative self-image and would form his worldview. For example, when a teacher or a parent continuously tell a child: “You are stupid. You are slow to learn.” , such a child would have those words sown into his mind and would have accepted those words as part of his own identity.

The same principle works when someone is raised in a positive and loving environment. a person who has been loved, accepted, cherished, praised and encouraged,  would have become a confident and self-aware person, who is open-minded, ready to try new things and not afraid of failure. Even when they fail, they would have the confidence to get up and try again.

The way we speak not only reflects our beliefs but might be habitual. We pick it up from our parents, peers, culture, and environment. Here are some negative patterns of speech:

Using disempowering words as: “Shouldn’t; Won’t; Can’t”; Constantly complaining and moaning; Negative remarks, Criticism – looking at everything as Black and White; Nagging; murmuring Generalizing/catastrophizing- believing and speaking the worst possible outcome; Using Irony, bullying, calling names.

Have you recognised any negative pattern in your own way of speaking?

After we looked at the correlation between our beliefs and words and the powerful impact the words have on our lives, what can we do to start changing the way we speak? The first thing we can do is to become aware of our own way of speaking.

Start listening to yourself!  Become more aware of the words you use to describe yourself and your life. How do you speak to your children, spouse, your family, to people in general? What words do you use? Are they positive, affirming and building up or negative and disempowering? We tend to be more careful when we speak to a stranger than to our own family.  If you want to sow good seeds into your loved ones and into your life, decide to speak words which will have a more positive effect on your reality and the people around you. Write those words down, so you could read them and re-enforce them. Write down positive statements about those areas in your life where you struggle the most.

Recognise! What is your self-talk? What do you believe about yourself? What words have been spoken over you when while you were growing? In what way they have affected your life on a daily bases? Recognise the disempowering beliefs that you have been holding from your childhood or your past. Remember that negative experiences could create disempowering beliefs. What you feel or belief about yourself might be just a projection of a negative experience. Recognising the disempowering belief is the first step to changing it.

Choose the right confession/affirmation. The affirmations are positive statements that we choose to speak every day, in order to change a limiting belief that we hold for ourselves. For example, if you struggle with fear, you might decide to write a note: “The only way to overcome fear is to face it and I choose to act in spite of my fear!” Read it every day out loud until it produces courage and boldness inside of you. Positive coping statements encourage us and help us cope in distressing times. We can speak these encouraging words to ourselves and be our own coach. We all have been through distressing times, and we can draw upon those experiences for strength and wisdom to help us go deal with current difficulties.

Examples of coping statements:

Stop, and breathe, I can do this. 

This will pass I can be anxious/angry/sad and still deal with this.  

I have done this before, and I can do it again.

This feels bad, and feelings are very often wrong In every difficult situation, there is a way out This won`t last forever.

Short-term pain for long-term gain I can feel bad and still choose to take a new and healthy direction.             

  I don`t need to rush, I can take things slowly.

I have survived before, I will survive now.

I feel this way because of my past experiences, but I am safe right now.

I’m stronger than I think.

It`s okay to feel this way, it`s a normal reaction.

Everything is possible for those who believe.

This is difficult and uncomfortable, but it is only temporary I choose to see this challenge as an opportunity I can learn from this and it will be easier next time.

Write those statements somewhere, where you can read them easily every day until it sinks into your subconscious mind and starts producing positive results in your life.

Create the habit of speaking words that encourage others, builds them up and empower them. Decide to speak what you want to see happening in your life instead of what you see or feel. Use the power of your words to create a better reality!